Schorn warns the cheater as co-parent is still the same selfish person with crappy life skills, and I've already been made aware of this as he is insisting he doesn't have to notify me of his travel plans during a global pandemic, and sees no reason to test negative or quarantine after a trip to Greece (where we honeymooned 16 years ago btw) with Ms Won-A-Turd, in fact he plans to come straight home and breathe British Air all over our asthmatic daughter and her compromised lungs. It is fairly closed minded to think that people can't learn from their mistakes and step up to be a better person, or that others aren't capable of forgiveness and reconciliation.

Jennifer, one of the other counselors here, did read many of them on the other site and said the anger continued to fuel more anger and that attacks were directed at what others claimed about my views rather than the actual message of this site. Everybody warns against parental alienation, but Schorn isn't saying we should make this a value judgment just that we should be concise and factual. It has been a little shy of two years since I read the original self-published version of this book.this is because betrayed people who have had their personal dignity violated are very susceptible to hate contagion. It has totally changed my perspective on what I should expect in life, love and how I am treated, and while that is quite difficult to get my mind round right now I am so thankful I read this book. But my enthusiasm for that message is dampened by the frequently expressed opinions that cheaters should be dumped, betrayed spouses who want to save their marriage are chumps, and those who encourage relationship recovery (especially marriage counselors) are no better than ambulance chasers, greedy to profit from the pain of others but without any real remedies. I think you should probably have been taking active steps long ago to assume control of your life and leave someone who obviously has no interest in loving you or keeping his marriage.

I don’t believe people cheat because they’re broken, or they have family of origin issues, or because of the staggering powers of Facebook crushes. There are other issues worth considering if that person is going to learn from their failure and move toward change, whether or not the marriage survives. Plus I laughed through most of this book, and by that I mean _with_ the author about my cheating clown of a husband, not _at_ the author as was the case with books by Laura Doyle, Hendrix and Hunt, and Gottman. I’d like to review this book by pointing out my primary agreements and disagreements with its author, and who I believe will be helped or hindered by reading it.

These are the following core elements that she is perpetuating ~ indignation,intense dislike, negative binary stereotyping , total lack of empathy for the hated (the book takes no account of the emotional turmoil of the offender) and a basic underlying tone of sneering hostility. And I know many other former cheaters who have long years of evidence pointing to their trustworthiness. He proceeded to engage in crazy-making abuser behavior (gaslighting), and I began to feel like I was losing my mind.